Blayne Hardy Barfield was the essence of a graceful, young southern woman. Those who encountered her in life were met with sparkling eyes, an infectious smile and a caring demeanor. But behind this beautiful presence, Blayne struggled intensely with feelings and emotions she could not understand or share. Her struggles ultimately reached a level she could no longer battle, and this vibrant, much-loved 30 year-old ended her life. Sifting through a crushing brokenness, those who loved her most began a painful journey of reflection to try to understand Blayne’s death by suicide.

Growing up in a home with nurturing parents and an older brother and sister, Blayne was surrounded by love and security, driven by a strong faith in God. An extended family of devoted grandparents, aunts, uncles and cousins – as well as many friends – provided her with an extensive support system that grew as she did. As a child Blayne was happy, easy-going and sensitive to others’ needs. These traits continued into adolescence, where she excelled in many areas and matured into a conscientious young adult.

One of Blayne’s middle school teachers remembers her as “a happy adolescent, full of compassion and surrounded by a host of friends.” In high school she was described as “a poised, kind and graceful young lady who was quite independent.”